You may be perplexed, angry even at the title of this post; but I urge you to stay with me because I want to offer you a key to contentment.
I will be exploring the kind of acceptance that helps you to move forwards in your life; and yes, to a degree this does mean letting your perpetrator off the hook—because the energy we expend in permanently keeping them there is energy that we could use for our own fulfillment. I use the word “permanently” because of course it’s understandable that occasionally we do need to direct our rage towards them; and as long as it’s not an all-consuming rage, that’s fine.
That said, this audio explores 3 areas of acceptance that make sense to me after 50 years of searching. I’m not claiming to have all the answers. And I’m not even saying that I’ve got it right. Having all the answers and being right don’t matter because acceptance means that you know you’re good enough—at least for today.
When you’ve listened to the audio, join the discussion to let others know where you have found acceptance, or where you still struggle to find it. Or tell me why acceptance just does not work for you.
Three ways to accept your childhood abuse:
- Accepting what happened to us—wholeheartedly and without regret
- Accepting that the abuse was not about us, it was about the perpetrator: we happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time
- Accepting the reality of today: the reality of our feelings, our hurt, our situation
PS In this photo I wanted to capture the beauty of a simple poppy in a garden in Wales