“What if they find out I’m a fraud?”

Black and white thinking heightens Imposter Syndrome—that small voice that consistently says “You’re a fraud and one day they’ll find you out.” In other words it means that we somehow don’t have faith in our own feelings or identity.

Here are my 9 tips to tackle Imposter Syndrome:

  1. Perfectionism and unrealistic expectations feed the Imposter Syndrome. It’s best to tell myself that I can master what I do but I’m not necessarily the Master of it.
  2. Stop comparing myself with others.
  3. Tell myself I have the right to blog and help others.
  4. Keep on going, raise the bar and dig deep.
  5. I try to own and internalise success and achievement (however small they appear).
  6. Expose myself and accept vulnerability (painful I know.)
  7. Recognise that actually Imposter Syndrome exists (its power seems to diminish when you give it a name)
  8. “Fake it til you make it.”
  9. FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real. What evidence in my 57 years do I have that someone has said to me  “Aha—I’ve found you out…”

Do share your experiences and take care.

5 Comments Add yours

  1. Niki says:

    Interesting, I didn’t know this was a thing. Just reading this along with the first comment is very liberating. I thought I was the only one that felt that way and thought those things. The battle in my head with myself over the years has made me feel crazy…

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    1. I’m pleased you find this useful. It is liberating isn’t it–though I’m finding that it takes a lot of work to undo a life-time of wonky thinking!

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      1. Niki says:

        Oh yeah! I’ve been doing the work, but there was something about me not being the only one that confirmed somethings that have been running through my mind over the years.

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  2. Yes–we have to learn to shut up that chatterbox that keeps on feeding us the negative messages we were fed when we were powerless

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  3. sasperella says:

    I have this, its horrible, i have this all the time, “it didnt happen, you know it didnt happen why are you lieing, your disgusting, hatefull, i hate you, the list goes on. But I know it did happen. its like too many voices all at once in your head. Thank you for this post Serena I never knew it had a name xx

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