Do you ever think something was a disaster (a meal you cooked, a party you threw, something you made)? Chances are there were a couple of imperfections and you decided to discount your efforts in their entirety. If so, welcome to my world of black and white thinking. Til now, that is ….
Sitting in church today I was able to see objects in a new light—literally, because they’d been illuminated with candles. This way of seeing familiar objects afresh is a good analogy for our lives and our interactions with people and events.
Black and white thinking used to be my stock in trade but I am trying to put an end to it and to see people (including myself) as multi-dimensional. In the recording I talk about 5 techniques I’m using to encourage “rainbow thinking”:
- If you’re looking at a work of art and it does nothing for you, don’t dismiss it. Go back and look again.
- Return to a film or a book you didn’t like when you were younger and see how you feel about it now.
- Learn something new: I was hopeless at maths at school but now I enjoy some aspects of working with numbers.
- Next time you take a dislike to someone, really try to see the world from their point of view (yes, even if their name is Donald Trump…) It doesn’t mean you will like them but it is helpful to them and to you!
- The next time you go for a walk (or even step into town), focus on just one sense to the exclusion of all others: sight, sound or smell. I promise you’ll have a completely different experience of the same location.
Are you guilty of Black and White or All or Nothing thinking? What’s your experience?